Are you feeling frustrated, angry, overwhelmed and exhausted?  Have you tried everything to create the life or business you want and nothing seems to going well, you keep hitting imaginary brick walls leaving you feeling unhappy.

Let me ask you a simple question “What do you want?”.

I believe the first step in creating the life and business you want is clarity.  Without taking the time to fully identify what it is that you want then any action steps you take will be a waste of time and you will be left feeling frustrated and exhausted because, let me be frank with you, it won’t work.  I know what it is like to be struggling and didn’t know what to do.  When I became very clear what I wanted then the opportunities started appearing.

When I ask the same question to my new clients they are stumped.  They look at me with wonderment.  It is such a simple question but they haven’t taken the time to ask themselves or maybe they have and not listened.  You may not get the answers you thought!

I had one client who came to me, asking why she didn’t have the business she wanted and the life she loved.  When we drilled down to it she was on the wrong path for her job and wasn’t fulfilled.  It was important for her to STOP and finally listen to what she wanted for her life, what was she passionate about.

That is why clarity is so important.  I can tell you without it you won’t be able to get the life you want, you will always be on this cycle of unhappiness and feelings of frustration that your life still looks the same.

So today I’m asking you to STOP and answer these questions.  Be totally honest with yourself and listen:-

1.         If money was no object what would you be doing today.

2.         What do you want? Don’t be afraid to dream big.

Answer these questions carefully and you will see where your life or business isn’t matching up.   I was asked the first question many years ago and I would categorically say I would still help people stop struggling.  If your answer is different then it is time to look deeper and really understand what you want.  How do you want your life to look like?  What sort of business do you want?

Without clarity success will be hard and you will be stuck for years!

If you want to blast through this first step of clarity then please sign up for my free 45 minute consultation.

When we are stuck and can’t see the way forward in any areas of our lives, we can either do two things:-

1. Give up
2. Open up

I have had many things happen in my life when I have felt exactly like this

and see many of my clients get into this situation.  This is where they actually find me, so that I can steer them into the right direction.

A lot of my clients that I see are stuck because basically they don’t have the right information or knowledge to move forwards.  When we are in that “stuckness” place are heads are full of negative crap, we are blinded by the opportunities that are in front of us and the one thing that will move us forwards we have resistance.  We find excuses like, I don’t have the money, I don’t have time, I need to help other people.  What is your excuse?

When I see some of my clients and they say they are super busy that rings alarm bells for me and I normally ask them “what are you running from”.  We need to quieten down and take stock to really see the next steps.

Seven hot tips to get you unstuck now!

1. Step away – stop what you are doing right now and take stock.  Step away from the current problem even if it is only for 5 minutes and breathe.  It’s ok!
2. Ask for guidance/help – I see a lot of people not asking for help as this is a sign of failure.  Let me tell you straight, it’s not a sign of weakness it takes a courageous person to ask for help and plus it is a quicker way to your solution.
3. Read a self-help book – some of the solutions that I need are right in front of me in a book.
4. Walk in nature – go and take a few minutes to walk in nature.  This helps me when my head is full of babble, it helps me clear so that I can hear the next step.
5. Focus on your achievements already – some of us forget how we got here, what a wonderful and amazing person we already are.  This will help you realise that you can move beyond this, you may have been in a similar situation before.
6. Pamper yourself – do something physical for YOU!  Take a bath, buy yourself some flowers or make yourself a super healthy lunch.  This will immediately make you feel better and good about yourself.
7. Write it down – go and get angry and write it down.  This helps you to get it out of your system and when we are writing it down it helps us to see where we can help ourselves.

And remember don’t do the things that you normally do!  Get out of your comfort zone as you will get better results.

Try my recipe above and let me know how you get on.  Remember, you are stuck because you don’t have the right information to move forwards and not because you are a failure.

If you are serious about wanting to get unstuck then please sign up for my free 45 minute consultation.  I will help you see where you are stuck and give you some insight on how to breakthrough – Click here for your next step

Having been on my travels in London last week and in Bristol this week I have noticed one fundamental thing that we do when we are travelling (me included)!  Can you guess?

We shut ourselves off, open our books, play on our phones so even eye contact and interaction is avoided.  I especially love the tubes in London, no-one looks up from what they are doing.  No-one even smiles.  It makes be laugh because I try to smile at people and they don’t know what to do.

I meet many clients who say to me that no-one else in their office is having problems, they seem ok, am I all alone?

Fundamentally, lack of communication is making us feel isolated!!  I know from my own experiences if I wasn’t willing to share and talk about what I was going through people around me can’t learn from me.  I may be able to offer insight to other’s people issues by just sharing.

We are all a wealth of information and one little word or comment or even a smile might make that person’s day.  We don’t know what is going on with other people, what is laying buried deep within them, maybe they need to hear an inspiration quote or find that book they have been searching for.

Sharing is important

Sharing our problems or our challenges isn’t a sign of weakness if you share them in the right way.  If we continually moan and groan and become a victim to our challenges then the other person switches off and communication is lost.  However, if we are sharing our challenges then others might have the perfect solution for us.

So when you are feeling down and need a little “pick me up” give it back to someone else, it might make their day too!!

Top tip : Don’t feel isolated, you are not alone, others are probably suffering the same as you are.  Reach out and ask for support.

Here is my first blog – on my new website.  How exciting!

As April is stress awareness month I thought it would be appropriate to start off by asking you this question.

How does stress affect you?

I see a lot of clients who are stressed but when we delve into their lives

and situations this is not the problem, why not?

Stress connotates that we are not in control, we have feelings of overwhelm, exhausation and continually worry about what might happen.  Stress is growing and now it is reported that 1 in 5 people suffer from stress.  We perceive that our job is stressful, it’s a relationship problem but we never stop to think, is it me?

When I go out to do talks to coporate industries stress is very much seen as a sign of weakness, that they can’t cope and I believe that is why stress is becoming an increasing problem.  Basically it is a symptom, like a headaches, migraines and IBS.  When we start fixing the symptom we are not addressing the underlying cause.  We are simply putting a bandage over the problem.

I have done this on numerous occasions.  I thought I had stress issses because of my job – I changed my job to an industry where I thought stress didn’t exist BUT I still experienced burn out.  So this lead me to believe that stress is caused within us and not by external sources.

First step : How do you react to stress?

We have to start by looking at ourselves, how we react to stress, how are we thinking and feeling.  I always take my clients on the journey of really discovering who they are, what they want in life and then stress no longer becomes an issue.

I believe we are the creators of our lives – we are in control at all times, we have a choice whether to change or not.  This belief really turns stress on his head – as when we are stressed we believe we are not in control and thus cannot change it.

What could stress be telling you?

Sometimes we need this sign to jolt us into action.  We need to sit up and listen.  Some people ignore these signs and carry on whilst others seek help.  Don’t ignore these signs, they have a message, it’s time to wake up and accept responsibility.

Tip top : It is only when we take responsibility that we actually transform our health and our lives and eliminate stress.